How to stop being grumpy…

This morning I woke up grumpy and whingy and that’s not a good start to the day. While doing my morning pages I managed to clear it and thought I would share with the process I went through.

I accepted responsibility for my grumpiness. That is the grumpiness was with me and not the fault of anyone else.

Since I was responsible for the grumpiness it was my choice, now that I was aware of it, whether I remained grumpy and whether I let it go. Just the absurdness of thinking about choosing to remain grumpy brought the first smile.

Then I asked myself was the outside influence that had triggered my grumpiness important? Would I remember it in a month, year or 5 years even? The answer was no.

Why had I become grumpy? Because life wasn’t the way I thought it should be – yes I was trying to fight reality (again!). By trying to fight reality I had actually lost perspective and then closed down all possibility for creating anything new.

If there was a genuine concern (and in one case there was) then could I do something about it? Yes I could and I resolved to take some action.

After that there was actually nothing left to be grumpy about – the stories that I had created had vanished and the reality that was left was simply that – reality. Sometimes when I lose perspective it’s because I get tied up in the story of what I think  is going on rather than the reality of what is.

All the time while I was doing this process I was listening to the theme music from Starman which I love (and I loved the film too).

It may of course be coincidence but after that clearing and feeling so much better I received a phone call about some potential website work